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First of all, most students, even psychologically healthy students, do have different (or even sometimes opposite) behaviours at home and at school. Having said that, we do need to understand the reason(s) behind such differences of your child. Sometimes, the differences may be only a kind of adaptation process that the difference may be diminished after you child has successfully adapted to a new environment. Even if your child has already adapted to a new environment and still behaves differently between at home and at school, that kind of different behaviour may sometime be necessary to maintain a desirable balance between the school and the home, for example, the school requires a very strict or proper behaviour for students, e.g., stay very quiet in classes, does not raise ‘unnecessary questions’ in classes, etc. Hence, your child may be just trying to maintain those proper behaviour required by school, and only shows his own personality to be talkative and lively at home. Of course, if your child’s different behaviours are due to other factors that needs to be attended by parents or teachers (e.g., being bullied by people at school), you need to seek help from a qualified mental health professional then.

Every aspect of a student is important, either his academic performance or his affective needs (e.g. interpersonal relationship, emotional well-being, behavioural adequacy, etc.). Under this principle, we encourage you to contact our CAC to make an appointment with our psychologist, so that we could work together with your school or parent teacher association to promote your child’s interpersonal relationship. Of course, before your contact our CAC, you may need to explain to your child that you are not blaming your child of his difficulties in interpersonal relationship. On the other hand, you need to show your child that you will support your child no matter what reasons has caused the situation (i.e. unsatisfactory interpersonal relationship), you will face the situation with your child and you will seek help with your child from an experienced mental health professional so that you child can overcome any obstacles (which to be identified) and can improve his interpersonal relationship in a favourable direction. After telling your child about these, then contact our CAC and we will guide you and your child through the situation!

Yes, this must be frustrating, we understand! First of all, we do not assume that the behaviour of your child is a form of manipulation unless we eliminate all other possible factors behind his behaviour. In fact, there are many other possible reasons that your child would behaviour the way you mentioned, for example, you child had already stressed out after school every day, so his frustration tolerance becomes less functioning at home, and a trivial thing at home may trigger his emotion. If this is a reason, you surely need to give your child a comforting hug with a gentle voice to calm him down other than trying to suppress his emotion as if that was a manipulation of you initiated by your child. Other than this possible reason, there are still a lot of other possible reasons of his emotion explosion at home. But to short, we encourage you to ask your school or parent teacher association to contact our CAC and make an appointment with our experienced psychologist, they know how to help your child out of his emotion management difficulty.

You are a responsible and caring parent as you want to know more about your child’s school life and his friends at school. We understand how frustrating that your child does not prefer to talk about those topics or to let you know those aspects of his life. Of course, there are many different reasons that a child is not easy or unwilling to tell a parent about those topics. In order not to confuse you by giving you different examples of reasons that a child would refrain himself from telling you about those things which may even put you into a great worry about those possible reasons, we prefer you to contact our CAC and to talk with our psychologist, so that our professional could have some idea about what reason(s) may make your child not willing to talk with you about those things and then our psychologist would suggest a possible way for you to convince your child to come with you and meet our psychologist in a consultation or counselling session, so that our psychologist can help to resolve the factors that hinder your child’s willingness to talk with you about those topics.

We understand how helpless you are when your child’s responsibility of his study is transferred onto your shoulders when his teachers keep telling you to pay more attention on his study but in fact your child does not allow you to take this responsibility as he just does not give you a role in his study even as a reminder. In a psychological point of view, you should only focus your role as a caring parent despite of the role for reminder that your child’s teachers want you to take. Only when your child feels that you care about his well-being as a parent, then your child may be able to tell you more about the real reasons of his disliking school or study, or your child may be willing to come with you to meet our psychologist who would be able to help your child in facing or resolving the reasons that made your child disliking school or study. Of course, you also need to let your child’s teachers know that only when you focus on the role I have just mentioned and let your child trust you and tell you the reasons hinder his effort on study, then you can bring your child to seek help for improving his attitudes and eventually improving his behaviour in school or on his study.

We trust your child would want to find someone who can help him out of his current situation (i.e., scare of talking in front of others and being teased or laughed at by others). Therefore, you should talk with your child and let him know that you will do whatever you can to find an experienced mental health professional to help him out of this situation. If you can get his willing to come with you to meet our psychologist, then our psychologist knows how to help your child and promote his self-confidence, assertiveness to express himself, and bravery so that he could have radical changes in his life and then he does not need to keep the situation anymore in the coming days of his school life and also his future. Hence, contact our CAC and make an appointment of consultation or counselling session with our psychologist once your child is willing to seek help from us.